By Thompson
In 1989 I was in care at a home in South Wales and whilst there I and a boy called ‘Daniel’ were groomed and then sexually abused by a man who I’ll call ABG from Llandaff (Cardiff).
At the time the home found out what was going on and the police were brought in, I went to see a child psychologist but I was unable to talk about what had happened (was very scared,ashamed and felt responsible for not only my own abuse but of the other’s as well).
A couple of weeks later I was moved to a home 30 miles away and that was the last I had heard of the matter (just tried to forget and get on with life and after a while I had managed to repress these horrific memories) until the police contacted me in 2011 and said that someone had come forward and had made a compliant of abuse against ABG and would I like to be a witness and i said yes and I would also like to make a complaint myself as I had never done so.
The officer in charge (DC Dan Todd, Fairwater CID) then informed me that I could not make a complaint because I had already made one(this was news to me), he then went onto say that ABG had been charged with interfering with me and ‘Daniel’ as a child and was sentenced to 4 years at Cardiff crown court on 1991.
I then made a complaint to the IPCC to find out how the police could charge this guy without a statement from myself and they just put all the blame onto social services and there procedure would be to inform my parents/carers of any proceedings.
I then requested the documents from the planning meetings that were held on my behalf by social services and in them was a passage that had been recorded in the minutes
and it states.
After a joint police interview with john lent(social worker) and my self that the implication’s of homosexual activity with a man in Llandaff(George) and that the police were not intending to take any further action.
At the same time they were charging ABG with abusing me and ‘Daniel’.
The only reason I can think of why they would do this is that I wasn’t able to talk about my abuse so the police and social services thought they would simply discriminate against me
By the way, ‘Daniel’ was able to talk and so got all the support that he needed to recover from this horrible incident.
Wasn’t happy with the way the police had not only used my name to put this guy away once and now they wanted to use me again without offering me any explanation or apology for the abhorrent way in which I have been treated and so decided that I would not go to court as a witness and retract my statements unless I got the truth, first they begged me not to and then started to threaten me with a summons at which point I told them that if you summons me to court I will go to the press and tell them how you literally screwed me over in the past and how they wanted to do the same again, well they shat themselves and within an hour I was being included as a victim in the on going case.
I gave in and went to court and ABG was sentenced to eighteen years in prison(the length of sentence reflects what this man put us kids through.
A further complaint which was handled by the south Wales professional standards department(you would think with a name like that they would act professionally, well they do but that only covers cover-ups)
I presented my evidence and they did everything they could to not only discredit the evidence but to discredit me as a thirteen year old child
and I got the impression that the training in that guy was so strong and I think he truly believed that the police could never be responsible for something like this even when confronted with evidence that can not be denied.
He even went and questioned the social worker John , who made the statement but instead of asking him what the bloody hell is going on and why was he ok with branding me as a homosexual that was having some kind of affair with a paedo, no instead he asked if I was present at that meeting, now if he was looking at this case objectively he would understand that it would have been very inappropriate for me to be at a meeting where such adult themes were being discussed. And that leads me to believe that this guy is either incompetent or he is doing his best to make this “go away”
I lost it with him and I really had to hold back from punching the guy right on his pointy nose (dirty lying scumbag) and his name is DI Amhed of the South Wales professional standards dept, an absolute joke that guy.
Of course his findings were, ‘there was nothing wrong here’ and I should stop harassing the police
Nothing to see here, move along, move along
I had arranged before hand to record his excuses and will be taking that to the appeal and then onto the press to expose this guy for the fraud that he is
I am not very good a writing so please forgive any grammatical error’s
Where do I go from here, have approached the big newspapers but they really don’t want stories like this
so complaining about the “firm” is like banging my head against a big blue wall
No apology I even had to shout at a cop for five minutes before he got the fact that I have been discriminated against for not being able to talk about my abuse.
Welcome to Great Britain
I do not yet know what to do but thanks for reading
Thompson.
gojam note: because I am keen to seek justice for ‘Thompson’, and I’m working to that end, I’ve edited a few details from this account. Thompson did give me his full real name but we’ve agreed that it was not necessary to publish it.
I have a 13 year old boy of my own, even the thought that something like this could happen to a child is bad enough, without having to read about it first hand. The pain and confusion that your 13 yr old self had to endure was appalling, the fact that as an adult you are still having to explain and justify yourself, whilst facing hostility from the very people who are supposed to be helping you is untenable. I very much hope that Gojam can help you in your quest for justice. You are a very brave man for speaking out now, the cat is well and truly out of the bag. Take care x
keep your chin up – I have had experience with people from Barnardos and NSPCC – they are masters of deflecting – and not acknowledging there shortcomings – understand your frustration and anger – you will win in the end – you will find peace
For you to act and bring these truths to light will have taken great courage Thompson. I am forever grateful.
A courageous thing to do, right from the start; now sounds like another dose of post-rationalisation from the police. And they wonder why we’re still so wary of reporting sex offences.
I hope you see it through and bring them to account.
Thompson has asked me to convey to you all his grateful thanks for all your kind words.
I find it upsetting that `Thompson` has told you (us) his story – which I believe – but where is his support? – cannot even get it from your blog – tell the lad from me gojam whatever help he needs I will give him from a price of a can of special brew or help with representation – no fair weather friend here
Hi John.
Please trust me on this. I’m working in the background on behalf of Thompson but please don’t expect a big reveal from me if I’m successful. Thompson will know and that will be the end of it.
happy with that, just upset me that the guy put his `head up` – and no big response from `general public` on your blog – thanks for helping Thompson – as i said – no fair weather friend to you – but more importantly Thompson – regards
Thousands of people have read Thompson’s story.
Sometimes people just don’t have words.
Thompson , please know that you’re not alone. Thank you for standing up for what’s right.
We each need to find this immense courage to stand up to institutional abuse wherever it is. These despicable authorities are ONLY people just like us , they are charged with working FOR US, together we can crack their corruption and the insane psychopathy that gets into ordinary people when they get into positions of power.
thanks too to you Gojam.
There is so much truth in what you’ve written Sam.
These people who have the arrogance to set themselves above us are deeply flawed and are not ‘better’ or ‘cleverer’ than US.
And yes we do have the power to change that but we need to get smarter, tolerate each others differences,and cooperate.
Big ask, I hope we’re all big enough to put the welfare of children above our own petty day to day ‘wants’ and ‘needs’.
disagree gojam they can say sorry/what can I do/ disbelieve etc etc – these thousands of people have words – I have – you have – whats the problem?
Thompson (and similar people) are saying (I believe) did not want to be abused!
john, I am one of the thousands who have read and been deeply touched by Thompson’s words. I never comment, but I do quietly gather information and inform my friends and family of what is going on. The people who cover these things up will face justice. Word is spreading about what is going on, and it is the bravery of people like Thompson which is shining the light in on these very dark places. Thompson, sending you love and best wishes, you are so brave. Continue to stand up for what is right and true. You are standing up against evil, that’s what we all need to do to stop this.
fair cop